The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People - Verdict

I read this book sometimes ago. It seems like a good idea at that moment.
As my job is in management sector now, I deal with lots of people, make sure that everything goes as planned and on time. Let me write some of the things of why The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People is not working in my job.

1. Telephone

    Classified as urgent but not important. Not so true. Usually people phone me when they need quick reply of something highly important. Or clarifying things written.

Or take this example. Nowadays people doing business receive tons of email everyday. Somehow one important email got buried, or forgotten. Maybe, some VIP was on the run when it pops up on his/her cell, screen it through real quick and by the time they reach office again they forgot about it. After 1-2 days I have to follow up, and you know how it will ends if people think that answering their phone is not even important? Chaos.

2. You can't be the only one in the system working this method out.

  I try to answer correspondence in the email first thing in the morning, keeping in mind that it will take a while until the reply comes. So correspondence first and then work on data, documents, and offline things after.

In some cases we deal with people who works out things not by what time the instruction come first, but by priority. That's how the earliest email got executed the very last.

Or when you received one but it always come with mistakes, so you comment on it and give it back to them, several times before they have it right.

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People ideas to relating with other people is to "build good relationship, charm the other party so that you have things done before you know it".

That simply doesn't work. The problem is not about relationship. Effective people dealing with snobs and trying to correct them. You will end up blaming yourself. In this case I need to quote yet another self-fix book: don't sweat the small stuff.

Sometimes we feel that "other people needs to change so that things in our life works". What about if we can't? With anger, with authority, with smile, with cookies, we just can't.

I just let this kinda things slide. I am the worst at influencing people either.

I guess it is a very subjective kind of solution, but I stop looking at that as a problem, just a pre-existing condition. Same like a bumpy road area you have to drive on every single day, until days pass and you master not to stressed so much about it. There are days when you wished it is a smooth road, too. But in this life, you can't expect everything perfect. And the most effective people will not put any emotion to it. Just fix it every time in need fixing.