Noticing and stopping when you feel bored is one good achievement. We live in a fast world, and with our smart phones, TV and shopping malls we constantly feed our impulses, when truly we just can't bear living in a still.
I am baffled myself, and building this tips of how we not fight it (we can't), but embrace it.
1. Surrender
By paying a close attention of how bodily feels, the stream of our mind. This is one important, clear up expectation: something is coming up, I am waiting for this, when I do this I hope I can get inspiration of what should I do. Dedicate a stretch of time of me not expecting anything.
The time frame can be differ. When you are bored of today, a weekend with no activity then give yourself a 30 minutes or longer time of no expectation. When you are bored of your life situation, challenge yourself of a week or a month of no expectation.
2. Gratitude meditation
Cultivate gratitude isn't an easy job. Some sources made us depends of materialism and joyful things happen in life. Can you be grateful of something bad, though? Soren Kierkegard said life can be understood looking backward; this, hopefully ends to a conclusion that everything in life is blessing in disguise. We can contemplate on that.
3. Take care of yourself
Look in the mirror, and think, how do you want to take care of yourself today? Please refrain from enlist the lack or making shopping list. Instead, example such as, a nice warm bath, a good cup of iced tea, lining up clothes for tomorrow's wear, or experimenting on new make up - little things. In a way make that a meditation - that is when you are fully there when you are doing it.
4. A personal tip from myself - clean up your surrounding.
This is a fengshui tip. With clean space we have clear head, mood. It works for me. Please also make this a meditation practice.
P.S I am feeling bored prior to writing this and googled the way to overcome it. Turns out a productive one.
Saturday, February 10, 2018
Saturday, February 3, 2018
Toll diary - Recognizing The Untrue Thinking
This is how I got my obstacle crushed. I love to daydream, imagining, fantasizing that I am successful, making my peer jealous, imagining the future that is so perfect to me, all the belonging, relationships. It is my comfort zone for since I was adolescence. If I was denied, rejected, fail or so, that is the quick rebound. Now I know the true meaning of surrender.
I met this guy and feel that as I did, he also feel the attraction. Over the course of one year, I develop this imagination about we build family together. I was not in great condition on 2017, so there is plenty of time spent on fantasizing. Truly, there is none romantic pursuance happened, in fact it was just pure professional. When I resigned, and then my best friend got engaged to be married, it fell to the deepest me, even though there is quite sometimes my reasoning would come back and I stopped stalking him for a while.
In my reasoning I said to myself:"even though you feel it, you don't know the true picture of the situation. It might be that it becomes so difficult because you too are not meant to be together, character-wise, or else" -- but I keep rebound in thinking of him.
And then last week I saw proof of his relationship with a girl on social media. I was so sad. This time I try so hard not to stir the story and be purely sad. There were times when my mind try to explain the situation, the 'if', I just watch it. I know I can't fight it. When my mind pushes me to revisit the website most of the time I don't act it. I used to vent a lot to people (to no use), but this time only one, and only briefly. I mourn quietly. There's a lot of tears.
Today, I can't quite say it is better, but I received an insight. The two last conversation was he saying "Sorry, I am in a meeting, I will call you back" - which he didn't. And another message from me if he is available to talk was answered "Sorry, I am driving". Very cold. How come I dismissed this fact and build stories on my own- for months?
I can tell you it is the most uncomfortable unrest of me dealing with this disappointment. Yes, when observed, the pain is just agitation, a feeling that when I look through, it is okay. But I always try to get away from it. This experience taught me of the many situation I try to deal with same fantasizing story. I hope I can be stronger in handling my mind.
I met this guy and feel that as I did, he also feel the attraction. Over the course of one year, I develop this imagination about we build family together. I was not in great condition on 2017, so there is plenty of time spent on fantasizing. Truly, there is none romantic pursuance happened, in fact it was just pure professional. When I resigned, and then my best friend got engaged to be married, it fell to the deepest me, even though there is quite sometimes my reasoning would come back and I stopped stalking him for a while.
In my reasoning I said to myself:"even though you feel it, you don't know the true picture of the situation. It might be that it becomes so difficult because you too are not meant to be together, character-wise, or else" -- but I keep rebound in thinking of him.
And then last week I saw proof of his relationship with a girl on social media. I was so sad. This time I try so hard not to stir the story and be purely sad. There were times when my mind try to explain the situation, the 'if', I just watch it. I know I can't fight it. When my mind pushes me to revisit the website most of the time I don't act it. I used to vent a lot to people (to no use), but this time only one, and only briefly. I mourn quietly. There's a lot of tears.
Today, I can't quite say it is better, but I received an insight. The two last conversation was he saying "Sorry, I am in a meeting, I will call you back" - which he didn't. And another message from me if he is available to talk was answered "Sorry, I am driving". Very cold. How come I dismissed this fact and build stories on my own- for months?
I can tell you it is the most uncomfortable unrest of me dealing with this disappointment. Yes, when observed, the pain is just agitation, a feeling that when I look through, it is okay. But I always try to get away from it. This experience taught me of the many situation I try to deal with same fantasizing story. I hope I can be stronger in handling my mind.
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